Change

To all the men out there that know they want to change the way they live their lives, but can’t find the power to change.   If you are not sure you are one of them, let me know if these sound familiar?  “As of today, things will  be different,” or “today I will be successful, no more failure,” or “there has to be more to life than this.” Obsessing over making those changes in order to get results that are different, even though you haven’t really thought about how to make those changes.

Looking at your phone all day thinking of what to text her – “What does she want to hear?” “How do I get her to like me?”   Being overweight and out of shape – “I am going to go to the gym every day for at least 1 hour.”   Being broke and in debt – “I swear that I’m going to get out of all of this.”  Cheating on your girlfriend or wife – “This is the last time, I’m going to end this.”  Going to the job that you thought was going to make you a success or a CEO – “I work for one of the most well-known companies in the world.” 

REALITY CHECK.  You can’t be anyone else, but you, no matter who you think “she” is going to like.  You don’t like working out 7 days a week and barely get there three days out of seven.  You haven’t changed the way you spend, the income you bring in or any of your pricey habits.  You actually still get a thrill out of leading a double life with two woman.  And six months later, you realize that you hate waking up going to that job. This places limits on you working from paycheck to paycheck. And causes you to walk around the office with a fake smile and a broken spirit. And yet, we spend each day vowing that it’s going to be different from now on.

The thing that we fail to realize as men are that changing your habits and your way of thinking is not as easy as picking up women, staying in debt and having the same job for years.  What we need to consider is that it may take all of the heart and plenty of desperation to overcome yourself.  Look deep into your heart right now and ask yourself to change.  How desperate are you for a change? When the days you feel like doing nothing and don’t give a damn, will you still follow through on the goals that you have set for yourself?  Are you still going to follow through with the change?

“The secret to change is not focusing all of your energy on fighting the old, but on building the new.”

Prov 23:7 “As a man thinketh in his heart, so he is.”